Whenever I have friends (especially the gay kind) visit BKK one of their FAQs is how are Thai men in the context of dating. I always tell them: "Dahling, don't get me started on that. How much time do you have exactly?"
I have to say that it is not my most favorite topic, especially when talking to visitors coz as much as possible I want to show them the more positive facets of living in BKK. By that statement alone, you can figure out what my impression is on dating Thai men.
This has been a topic that I've been tempted to write about in this blog. However, I don't think it's appropriate for me to comment on such a rather sensitive discussion mainly because of the nature of my job.
I don't want to be dethroned of my Miss World Peace of the Millennium title, do I?
Thank God we have the brazen Bitch of Bangkok (BoB) who recently posted an entry titled Why do you love Thai boys?. Many of the points that BoB raised in that article are nothing new to me. In fact, BoB is a close friend and we have discussed the "issue" many times before, as he also noted in the said article.
Let me pick up a few lines from the very sharp piece:
On sex... "There was hardly any innovation, fantasy, passion, even technique...I met no one who could kiss well... Generally, after a non-existent foreplay of about 2 minutes, my partners would ask me for condoms. Given the disappointment, I wonder why Thais are possibly the world's most famous prostitutes, sexworkers and moneyboys..."
"Unreliability: Thais work on impulses. If something appears to be good right now, if something tickles their fancy, it must be done or bought."
"Loyalty: I have met at least 5 guys who told me they have a boyfriend, mostly after sex. As far as I have seen and heard (quite a lot), everyone cheats. Long live the gig culture!!!"
Clearly the article resonated with a number of men who have their own encounters with Thai men. This follow-up post summarizes some of the comments left by readers. Interestingly, I've also talked about the topic with many non-Thais and almost all of them nearly have the the same arguments as BoB.
While it's very tempting to add my views on the discussion, for now I'd keep my opinions on the matter to my self coz I'm obviously not as courageous as BoB. Let's put it this way, both posts made me nod my head several times until I nearly broke my frail neck.
For those interested to get an insight on dating in BKK, BoB's opinions are absolutely worth checking.