"Too bad you're a top... we could have, you know..." said this flight attendant that I was MSNing with a couple of nights ago. We were just starting some friendly chat when he suddenly veered towards that topic. I couldn't believe I'm having that conversation again and so early into the getting to know each other stage. But what did I expect as this constantly crops up, especially among the locals. It's already getting annoying.
A friend also has this recurrent encounters with boys he chats with on the internet who, upon learning that my friend is a bottom, would say something like, "Well, we can just be friends". Meanwhile, I know of someone who has been dating this guy for a couple of months only to be told that the relationship did not have a future because both of them are top. Ugh.
It was not until I came to BangCock that I faced this top-bottom dilemma. Back home, I had relationships with top guys and the sex was definitely not bad at all. In fact, I hardly had any sexual encounters with bottom men in Las Islas Filipinas. Well maybe becuase back there, most gay men are top, as far I know. Blame it on our macho culture. But then, I certainly didn't mind if there were no bottom around coz obviously there are other ways of enjoying sex aside from a guy poking another.
However in BangCock, your sexual position, if I may call it as such, can obviously make or break a relationship. I've always had the impression that most Thai gay men are bottom (I might be generalizing a lot here), so I wonder how they ever have relationships with each other (maybe they don't?). In fact, my friends and I often tell ourselves that BangCock is such a top's paradise.
Still, the point I'm making is how being top or bottom becomes a major, if not the sole, deciding factor in dating someone. It's a pity that some decide to discard the opportunity of knowing potential dates based on such an inconsequential detail. Is this a matter of meeting men who apparently don't have the creativity on other ways of having sex? Don't you think they are a tad too shallow? Ok, granted that there are men who have a narrow definition of what good sex is, but what seems like a prevalence of such view in BangCock is really disconcerting.
* Thanks to Gibo for the title.