The point is, my mom supposedly SMSed my sister that she (my sister) is pretty much free to start a family of her own blah blah blah.
But for some reason, I was an addendum to my mom's unfailing concern for her kids.
And this is exactly what she sent my sister (in Suriganon, with virtually no punctuation marks):
"sagdi rkan si gp amo n gjud tingali ija stado nadawat na nato jaun. isa ry tagkahadlukan bc msakit i2n nan AIDS simbko lmang."
Ok, let me try my best to translate this to Tagalog:
"Pabayaan mo na si GP [my nickname]. Ganyan na talaga siguro ang kanyang estado. Natanggap na natin yan. Iisa lang ang kinakakatakutan ko, baka magkasakit sya ng AIDS, God forbid."
How tumbling moment can that get, aber?
My first reaction was really to LOL! That's honestly the best thing I could do at that time. What exactly is my mom thinking?
However, looking at it now, I reached a couple of conclusions.
One. My parents are at least aware that I'm gay.
Like, haler!!!??? What can be more obvious, di ba?
But the point is, my parents can talk about it now. For so long we've always adopted the don't-ask-don't-tell policy. I never really found it imperative to come out to them coz I simply don't see the point. But c'mon, in my case, coming out is just so... fucking redundant.
The bottomline is, as my mom said it, they have come to terms with my sexuality, di ba? I think that's the most important part. Relieved ang bayot.
Now moving on.
Two. My parents are concerned that I'd get infected?
This one concerns me more than the former coz I can't really believe how ignorant my mom is on this matter (sorry, mommy). Ugh. Most Filipinos haven't really let go of their stereotypes about gay people, my mom included unfortunately.
Well, ok, I appreciate her concern. But there are more things to be concerned about, mom... like, if I get enough skin hydration every night or that my shoes match my scarf.
But AIDS? I don't think so.
For one, my mom raised us talking about sex relatively openly. We learned about contraception, so in effect protection as well, since we were at least eight years old perhaps.
Second, I do get regular HIV tests, espcially here in BKK where it's free.
Third, I've ALWAYS, ALWAYS practiced safe sex. Gosh, what can be more difficult than that? Wait, probably braiding hair is harder. But no, I can braid hair with my eyes closed. Ooops, and having sex too, in many cases at least.
And fourth, she has no idea that ten years of going to Catholic school made me a true Dalagang Filipina. The nuns would be so proud of me! I don't sleep with just anyone; I sleep with EVERYONE. Choz!
Hay ambot! Hay ewan! Hay inday!
I don't know how to explain to my mom that her fears are totally misplaced and in fact baseless. I wish she knows me more.
Anyway, I'm just amused. Yun lang.